$ \textbf{Active Giving} $ Gifts are given without consideration towards the psychology of the recipient. In the eyes of parents, kids will always be kids, and when help is needed--they'll ride to their rescue. The savior of their plight may feel a sense of pride for what they've done --accomplishment of their duties as parents-- but the feeling isn't mutual. Parents mulling over the right amount to give for a new home deposit, until they finally settle on a number and transfer it. For the child--its Wednesday. Parents could gift a lump sum to their child as an investment for their future studies. For the child, this is the start of high expectations for growth, reports, and dividends; all of which they didn't ask for. Miscommunication is bred without words. It grows into feelings of burden and embarrassment or entitlement--paradoxical to the spirit of a gift. As parents, if you're going to give, give with intent and give alongside words -- otherwise the gift arrives, but so does the burden. $ \begin{array}{c} \text{As a gift is given, so shall it be received.} \\ \text{- Seneca} \end{array} $